If you want to read a truly great post, head over to Sara Flower Kjeldson Writes, and read the post ‘Know Your Glimmers‘.
That’s something to put anyone in a good mood!
Sometimes What Glimmers IS Gold
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Benefits of Counselling for Rainbow Sunshine444 (Part 2 of 5)
I lost a friend recently.
I lost her because I set a boundary, and I wrote about it here.
She asked me what to talk about in counselling, and I gave her a suggestion.
This is my second suggestion:
Talk about emotional regulation.
People who have experienced trauma need to learn how to feel emotions safely.
Our brains get changed after severe trauma in ways that make them harder to manage.
There’s a lot of invitations in our society to feel outrage, fear, drama, anger, etc without anyone holding our hand and telling us how to do that safely.
I’ve got a lot of help in feeling my emotions.
I’ve done 10 years of daily meditation (stopped in 2021, but retained some of the skills).
I listen to to speakers like Thich Nhat Hanh, Michelle Richmond, or Joe Dispenza who meditate and think about future creativity and growth.
There’s also help for me to lie on the bed and feel the emotions safely.
When you see people go from 0 to 100 on the emotional regulation scale in 30 seconds, you know they’ve probably experienced a lot of trauma.
My friend is the victim of a real, real of a lot of trauma. She’s had a tough, tough time.
In the state that I live in, anyone is eligible for free counselling who has been a victim of crime.
I pray to God that this woman finds the strength to face the issues she’s going through.
I pray for her warm heart, her intelligence, and her future.
I pray for her to develop a vision of her future that has something, anything, good in it.
And not good as in ‘Ooo I get to hurt so and so, that’ll be “good”’.
Good as in ‘Ooo, my heart is full of wonder and joy, and I’m so excited and happy to do such and such that will make my life better and help lift everyone in our society’.
That’s what I’m praying for her. That she’s actually going to have a good life.
It won’t happen unless she gets help with emotional regulation though.
That’s the second thing I think she should work on in counselling.
To buy or not to buy…
“Urges are like bubbles in a lemonade glass. If you leave the lemonade glass on the counter and go back to it the next day, [there are] not so many urges, not so many bubbles.”
Professor Mike Kyrios, a clinical psychologist from Flinders University
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-10-16/compulsive-shopping-fast-fashion-threads/101528868
Loved this article from the ABC news about how to buy less stuff online. This is good advice, and also a good article.
Thanks ABC.
Sweet Healthy Cinnamon…
Things we eat every day can be extremely healthy.
I learned about the benefits of cinnamon from World’s Healthiest Foods, which is an amazing website by a guy called George Mateljan.
I started taking it in capsule form 3 days per week around 2017.
Next time the Doctor (GP) checked my cholesterol, triglycerides, and blood sugar, they were noticeably lower.
Why is this?
- Cinnamon contains antioxidants and has anti-inflammatory properties. This study https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22007625/ says that cinnamon has “anti-microbial, anti-fungal, antiviral, antioxidant, anti-tumour, blood pressure-lowering, cholesterol and lipid-lowering and gastro-protective properties”.
- According to this article https://badgut.org/information-centre/health-nutrition/cinnamon/ from the Canadian Society of Intestinal Research, Ceylon cinnamon can sometimes help balance blood sugars because it improves insulin sensitivity, slows the rate that your stomach empties, and improves glycogen synthesis in the liver.
- This study https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30799194/ found that taking cinnamon decreased body weight by an average of 1kg over 12 weeks or more.
- This study https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30935562/ found that taking cinnamon reduced fasting blood sugar by 19 mg/dL.
- This study https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28887086/ found that triglycerides reduced by an average of 23 mg/dL when taking cinnamon and total cholesterol reduced by an average of 13mg/dL. This effect got bigger the longer cinnamon was taken over 16 weeks.
- This study https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27618575/ found that four research groups and gotten type 2 diabetics to less than 7.2 fasting blood sugar results using cinnamon supplementation.
For me, supplements are a way to love my body into health. They’re something I can do to make my body healthier and make my mood better.
I only take Ceylon Cinnamon because it has the least amount of coumarin which can be harmful for my liver. I also take cinnamon in small doses and not every day.
I buy Ceylon Cinnamon either from here: https://au.iherb.com/ or https://www.pipingrock.com/
Hope you enjoyed this article, and absolutely live your best life supplements or no.
None of the links in this article are affiliate links. All of the pictures are taken by me, unless otherwise noted.
Benefits of Counselling for Rainbow Sunshine444 (Part 1 of 5)
I recently lost a friend.
I lost her because I set a boundary.
This is the boundary: for her to be in my life, she had to attend counselling at least fortnightly.
In the state that I live in, she could access free fortnightly counselling because she is a victim of serious crime and child abuse.
She doesn’t feel the need to work on her issues.
I can understand that.
But I’m not standing on the deck of her ship going down with her.
If she wants to be in my life, she’s going to have to bail some of the water out and try to row for shore instead of intentionally drowning herself.
She asked me for advice as to what she should talk about in counselling.
Here is part 1 of 5 of my suggestions:
Victim/Abuser Radar Sensitivity Training:
RainbowSunshine444 was the victim of physical assaults and frequent emotional abuse from her mother as a child. She is still the victim of regular emotional abuse from her mother. This abuse has never stopped, because she has never moved out of home or separated from her Mum. I have witnessed this behaviour over the past 8 years, and I believe her when she says that it occurred s a child.
She has also internalized her mother’s voice, and insults and berates herself internally as well as having to listen to her mother’s abuse externally.
However, RainbowSunshine444 perceives nearly everyone external to her as abusing her. I have witnessed her label anyone who respectfully suggested she do something helpful in her life as an abuser. I have witnessed her label people abusers for doing something as simple as falling in love and moving out of a share house.
I have witnessed her label people who pay for her drinks and her food and treat her respectfully as abusers. I have witnessed her label people who habitually beat women as “pussy cats” and people who set respectful boundaries with her as “abusive c**ts”.
I have witnessed her claim that the child exploitation and trafficking that she was also a victim of is not abuse. I have witnessed her claim that her Mum does not abuse her.
It is clear to me that she has no f**kn idea what abuse is, and she desperately needs to learn what is and what isn’t inappropriate behaviour. The best place she can learn how to do this is counselling.
So that’s the first thing I think she would benefit from learning about in counselling:
Victim/Abuser Radar Sensitivity Training.
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