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Sound Relationship House (Part 4 of 5)

John and Julie Gottman’s Sound Relationship House

The hard step is safely managing conflict.

This means having good boundaries, accepting that your partner will be right sometimes, and that they get to have a say in what happens as a couple, but not letting them walk all over you.

It means talking and talking and talking.

It also means respecting when your partner gets overwhelmed and letting them stop. Letting them self soothe, and soothing them where possible.

It means watching your partner for signs that they’re getting upset and coming back to it later.

Roasted Kumera, Chicken Sausage, Fetta, Kale, and Spinach

My husband and I are having a big discussion right now about food. I read obsessively about diet, and even though I weigh around 190kg, I put into practice anything I can. For example I take supplements that are associated with a decreased risk of Type 2 Diabetes, I make sure I have a long gap between meals and snacks so my insulin doesn’t stay constantly high and I have a decreased risk of insulin resistance, I increase my protein, vegetable and legume intake and decrease my white carb intake.

Anything I’m capable of, I do.

Yet, my husband and I Both enable each other to eat potatoes, biscuits, chocolate and desserts.

Apple pie! Ready for the oven.

So my husband’s driving license has recently been threatened, and we’re having to do some serious thinking.

It’s tough coming up against ourselves like that.

Last night we were talking and my husband asked for a time out.

We stopped for a minute, and I stroked his hand.

After a while I said something, and he held out his left hand in a stop gesture.

I stopped.

It doesn’t mean that we won’t talk about it, and keep on talking about it, it just means that when he or I get overwhelmed, we pause for a moment and calm down for a while. We can each rely on the other not to cause harm by flooding.

https://www.gottman.com

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Sound Relationship House (Part 3 of 5)

John and Julie Gottman’s Sound Relationship House

After you’ve spent a long time getting to know your partner and learning their personal traits and histories, the next step is to love all over your partner and snuggle into their yumminess.

This means compliment your partner, tell them what they’re doing right, listen to them telling you 100 times the same joke and still smile wryly.

Tell them you love them and you love the way they pick up groceries on the way home, or wash up all the plastic recycling on the weekend, or shake the water off their butt when they get out of the shower.

As John Flanagan a Gottman trainer says, the next step is to be your partner’s cheer leader.

Something my husband and I do is tell each other how much we love each other several times per day. I tell him he’s a good husband and I love him, and I say thank you to him for doing every good thing he does that I remember. Yesterday he tidied his cupboards, and he took the recycling box downstairs. I said thank you. Because he’s a good little kitten and I love him. Naaaaaw.

He tells me he loves me he likes my cooking and he’s proud of me for getting good marks at uni and he’s proud of me when I get a new client, and he thinks I’m a good wife. I love him and he loves me.

I also have an example of this from a friend, one of my friends and I start on the level of functional and we work to make each other more functional. I can talk to her about things I’m working on to improve, and she can talk to me too.

https://www.gottman.com

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Savings Trick for Pattern-ish Peoples

Are you a lover of patterns and numbers?

Fibonacci fun

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b008ct2j

Golden Mean grins

http://www.csun.edu/~lmp99402/Math_Art/Golden%20Mean/golden_mean2.html

Times-tables totally terrific

Here is one simple action I do to trick myself into locking more money into savings:

Make the numbers in your savings accounts line up in a row.

Here’s what I mean, I use a notice saver account which means that I can’t access my savings for a minimum of 30 days no matter how many shiny things I want to buy.

This very neatly prevents me from buying shiny things.

About 2-3 days after arranging a transfer, I nearly always think twice about buying the shiny, shiny, stuff and cancel it. Ka-ching!

I try to add money to this account every single week, even if it’s only $1.

The way I trick myself into saving more, is by adding (say) $5 to each account, and then remembering how much I Love it when the numbers go in a row.

Isn’t it fun-ner to see a savings account at $8, 722.22 rather than $8, 714.37?

I think it’s waaaaaay better when the numbers all go in a row. It makes me happy.

And then, because you’re putting money in but not taking money out, the numbers go Up as well.

So not only do you have a cool number pattern, you’re also putting money into savings and increasing your wealth base.

Awesome!

All you do, is grab a calculator, and put enough money into the account so that the last four digits go in a row (eg $8, 714.37 would increase by $7.85 to make $8, 722.22).

Generally this will cost you no more than $11.12 per account, and when they’re all orderly and delicious, you’re going to feel really good.

Good luck and happy savings 🙂

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Plenty of Honey in my Cupboard (Part 2 of 3)

How to get honey in the cupboard and things that are real honey instead of fake honey

  • Real honey: touch. Sit with your partner and massage his hands, feel happy about the physical touch time. Let your partner touch your back and your hands and spend time just talking and touching and hugging
  • Real honey: conversation. Spend time ringing and speaking to friends, past and present. Spend time speaking your heart and listening to them speak their heart. Listen.
  • Real honey: exercise. Spend time building your muscles, strength, balance, flexibility, and cardio ability.
  • Real honey: rest and sleep. You need to rest and sleep each night. Ask for vitality and calm productivity. At least one day per week should be at home pottering around and resting/cleaning etc.
  • Real honey: nature. Spending time outside in nature is physiologically good for us.
  • Real honey: creativity. Spending time doing creative stuff is real honey. This could include creative things which you can use to make money.
  • Real honey: mindfulness and inspiration. I like James Clear, Robin Sharma (the less egoic videos), Thich Nhaht Hanh, Brene Brown, Paula Pant, Andrew Hallam, Bill Gates and many more. I also like to meditate and be mindful.
  • Real honey: Kindness. When you do nice things for someone you feel good.
  • Real honey: virtue. Do things that are virtuous and you feel good. If in doubt, read an Old Fashioned Girl Louisa May Alcott or Tell me if the Lovers are Losers by Cynthia Voigt.
  • Real honey: savings. Having savings in the bank is real good honey. I don’t feel right if I don’t increase my savings by a little each week (increased by around $33 this week to a total of nearly $46k).
  • Real honey: satisfying food. Yes this includes animal products for me, also vegetables, fruits, vinegar, fermented foods, and sweet forbidden carbs.
  • Real honey: supplements. I take lots of supplements, and they help me feel healthy and safe.
  • Real honey: learning and teaching. This is the best.
  • Real honey: charity. Give to charity. Volunteer. It feels damn good to build up the community that supports you. And pay your taxes. We all like the Doctors to be paid, the sewer to run, the curbs to be maintained, and the poor people to have income.
  • Real honey: confront your demons and learn about hard stuff. A book on my current to-read list: http://www.katemanne.net/down-girl.html
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dVerse Poets Pub Quadrille #156 Wrap

This is a response to the prompt Quadrille #156 by dVerse Poets Pub

Write a 44 word poem containing the word “wrap”.

Holy azaleas and fat crickets

I’m watching how beauty feeds

Multiple creatures in different ways

The beauty feeds me, too.

Novotel Twin Waters

Kids picking hibiscus flowers,

Discovering ants.

Learning:

Feast with your eyes

Don’t wrap beauty around your fingers.

As I watch, I breathe in awe.  

Wow.

South Sydney Uniting Church

It’s 45 words! Hope you liked it!