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Disorderly Gratitude

Neurodivergence:

An interesting word

So many “disorders”

Words used to describe

Completely natural variance.

What words do I use

To describe myself?

Who am I?

How do I define my selfness inside my head?

Change can bring joy

Am I a disorder?

DID, Autism, PTSD?

All of those are just words

Used to characterise coping mechanisms or brain states.

Are my coping mechanisms a disease?

Or a super-power?

Am I disabled?

Or upgraded?

In truth, I see myself as

A capable human dealing with

Pressure and pain

In the best way I can.

I have a lot of help,

And I am grateful.

I have a lot of awe and love,

And I am grateful.

You hear me, God?

It’s not that things aren’t shit sometimes,

It’s that I look at the amazing life I’m living,

And I am grateful.

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What I learned in 20 years of teaching…

One of my favourite poems is ‘you get proud by practising’ By Laura Hershey.

Those tiny actions that you repeat every day?

They change you.

Growing butterfly bush or buddleia in Australia is a wonderful option

Your tiny daily actions change your muscles and posture—ever seen the way a cellist or violinist holds their head at the dinner table?

They way you regularly think changes the way your mind works.

People who do systematic work become increasingly technical.

People who learn a style of deductive reasoning such as lawyers become increasingly bound by rules and logic.

Grevillia in flower

Your speech and communication habits change your relationships.

Have you ever noticed how many psychologists have similar communication techniques or attitudes?  Or how teachers adopt a particular metre when speaking to 5 year olds?

Have you ever been talked down to by someone when they should have been talking up to you?

Sun shines light on the harbour

Your tiny repeated actions don’t just change what you do everyday, they change fundamental aspects of how you are in the world. They change your identity and your internal processes.

So my advice, for anyone really is to pick something to learn.

Could be a language, could be a way of walking, could be a skill, could be a craft, could be a body of knowledge, could be a sport, could be just about anything:

But pick something, and work on it for 5 minutes on a regular basis.

In time, I almost guarantee you’ll be really proud of yourself and how far you’ve come.

And I’ll be proud of you, too.

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WDYS#145 Sadje from Keeping it Alive

Thanks to Sadje from Keeping it Alive for her What Do You See prompt #145

Photo Credit: https://unsplash.com/@malonsophoto

Silent secrets: Communicating abuse

The artist’s white rose heart

Bursting out of the page

Reaching for anyone who might be able to help

Jewellery—there’s no lack of money,

Just lacking compassion, and empathy.

Trying, failing, trying, to speak

The longing to say words

For the sounds to tumble out of my mouth

Forbidden speech–

The despair of silence.

The effort of work that is

Helping someone understand,

While unable to utter a single word

Of truth.

I got help from https://steppingout.org.au
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Plenty of Honey in my Cupboard (Part 3 of 3)

Things that detract from my life, that is: Fake Honey

  • More than 1 hour per week on social media.
  • Not enough veggies and fruits
  • Unlimited wealth
  • Fame
  • Standing out/being different except via virtue
  • Taking more than my share
  • Taking from a system I don’t contribute to
  • Adrenalin without rest
  • Unlimited rewards without effort
  • The power that comes from shaming someone or being mean to them
  • Ideals of beauty that are disrespectful to people’s bodies
  • Reading/viewing violence or disrespect on books/internet/TV
  • Pessimism

None of these things have been shown by any research or any study that I’m aware of to improve your happiness, skills, or satisfaction with life. Think on that before you pursue them.

As my sister says: “I will be like Winnie the Pooh & find the honey”

Winnie the Pooh
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Writing Advice —

By Jamie Thunder Write about what you know, they said. But when she wrote about the hollow pull of loneliness and the fear she felt when walking alone they said no, no that is self-indulgent, and unfair on the many men who do nothing to warrant fear, even late at night when the bulbs in […]

Writing Advice —

This is an amazing short piece of writing. Grips the heart and what a kick in the tail!