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The Sound Relationship House (Part 2 of 5)

John and Julie Gottman’s Sound Relationship House

John and Julie Gottman’s model basically boils down to being nice to your partner while still having boundaries.

It starts with getting to know your partner really well. That means finding out their hopes and dreams; their experiences and memories; their values, ethics, politics, and spiritual views.

It starts with all the talking you do when you’re in new relationship energy, but it adds an additional responsibility to keep learning from each other.

They ask you to keep on talking and sharing your day, your experiences.

It starts with the admonition to be your partner’s best friend.

One piece of practical advice I got from Trish Purnell, a Gottman Trainer is that when your husband first comes in, the first moments he walks through the door, I just set aside 20 minutes (maybe over dinner or a drink) and let him vent about his day. He’ll vomit his news up all over me, and he’ll feel better, I don’t have to say anything or problem solve, I just let him vent for 20 minutes or so.

Another thing that I’ve done is to ask my husband to participate in my hobbies. So I did things like buying him a colouring in book so we could colour together, he does jigsaw puzzles so we do that together sometimes, we both love to read so we sometimes read the same books so we can talk about them to each other. It makes a big difference to understand your partner

http://www.gottman.com

Beauty
Novels and Creative Writing, Uncategorised, Uncategorized

d’Verse Poets Octelle

This is a response to the d’Verse poetry prompt ‘Octelle’

It’s not a perfect example, but I had fun doing it, and I thank Grace very much for posting.

Grey skies meld into purple light

Mottled, marbled but piercing bright

The edges move, stir and shift,

Illuminate rain that banks and drifts

Coursing, creating living souls

Growth of plants, creatures, life, and mould

Grey skies meld into purple light

Mottled, marbled but piercing bright

Thanks for reading!

https://dversepoets.com/author/somethingm/

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Savings Trick for Pattern-ish Peoples

Are you a lover of patterns and numbers?

Fibonacci fun

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b008ct2j

Golden Mean grins

http://www.csun.edu/~lmp99402/Math_Art/Golden%20Mean/golden_mean2.html

Times-tables totally terrific

Here is one simple action I do to trick myself into locking more money into savings:

Make the numbers in your savings accounts line up in a row.

Here’s what I mean, I use a notice saver account which means that I can’t access my savings for a minimum of 30 days no matter how many shiny things I want to buy.

This very neatly prevents me from buying shiny things.

About 2-3 days after arranging a transfer, I nearly always think twice about buying the shiny, shiny, stuff and cancel it. Ka-ching!

I try to add money to this account every single week, even if it’s only $1.

The way I trick myself into saving more, is by adding (say) $5 to each account, and then remembering how much I Love it when the numbers go in a row.

Isn’t it fun-ner to see a savings account at $8, 722.22 rather than $8, 714.37?

I think it’s waaaaaay better when the numbers all go in a row. It makes me happy.

And then, because you’re putting money in but not taking money out, the numbers go Up as well.

So not only do you have a cool number pattern, you’re also putting money into savings and increasing your wealth base.

Awesome!

All you do, is grab a calculator, and put enough money into the account so that the last four digits go in a row (eg $8, 714.37 would increase by $7.85 to make $8, 722.22).

Generally this will cost you no more than $11.12 per account, and when they’re all orderly and delicious, you’re going to feel really good.

Good luck and happy savings 🙂

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Re-Blog: RNOEL 328

Want to find out 10 careers with a median income over 70K that you can do without a four year degree?

The only one different that I know of in Australia as the Registered Nurse– In Au you need a 4 year degree. Enrolled Nurses have a 2 year diploma in Australia.

This is a really interesting article. Highly recommend.

Life Hacks, Uncategorised, Uncategorized

The Sound Relationship House (Part 1 of 5)

John and Julie Gottman’s Sound Relationship House

John and Julie Gottman have been helping couples heal in relationships and researching good relationships since the 1970’s.

It started with John realizing he had a crummy love life.

He would date women, but they just kept leaving him. Duh Dong.

Eventually he decided to get some data into what good relationships look like, and how to be in one.

Fast forward over 50 years and he’s happily married to Julie and his research team can predict with 98% accuracy if a couple will still be together in 5 years after a 1 hour conversation.

When he married Julie, in the 1980’s she said, ‘So John, when are you going to start telling people about this good relationship stuff?’ John was like ‘Huh?’ Lol.

Over time they’ve developed a model for good relationships called The Sound Relationship House and a series of short courses that you can do online through www.gottman.com or in person in Australia through https://relationshipinstitute.com.au/ My husband and I did their two day course, and some of their short courses, and they’re very good.

They’ve also got a whole mess of books and posters and info-graphics and card decks, you name it, available online through sites like www.amazon.com or though local bookstores like www.booktopia.com.au (search term: gottman).